You Don’t Have to Fit Any Boxes
In this post we’re mainly talking about gender stereotypes and gender roles that become even more prevalent if you’re a trans person.
There are a lot of trans people who are very binary, myself included, as I’m a trans man who dresses in a masculine way. But I’m also into typically ‘feminine’ hobbies like photography and writing.
What I’m saying is that you can be a feminine trans man or a masculine trans woman, if it’s not something that worsens your dysphoria.
It might make it harder to pass, people might be more likely to be confused when they look at you, but if you still like dressing in a certain way that other people might not approve of or understand – you can do that.
You can wear skirts or makeup or jeans or cut your hair short no matter what your gender identity is. Some people might wait until they’re further into their transition so that they’re more likely to pass, such as a trans man deciding to wear makeup after he’s been on T for a while, but don’t let societal expectations tell you what you can and can’t wear because of how you identify.
You’re not a ‘fake’ trans person or any less of a man or woman if you do present yourself in an unexpected way.
I know it’s not as easy as just wearing what you want and ignoring anyone who’s mean about it, but you just keep moving forward and finding what works for you. You talk to other people about your fears or anxieties if you have them, and eventually you learn to love the parts of yourself you never thought you could.
It’s your body, your choice, and nothing should be able to get in the way of that.
If things do get in the way, then you keep trying to overcome them until you finally do.
